Penis Size - Part 1
Post date: 2009-02-21 12:39:12
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Penis enlargement
- is your penis size important, what works to enlarge and what doesn't!
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Why are men so
captivated by their penis size? Is it an underlying psychological issue due to
presentation of the perfect human body via the media and advertising like it is
for women (the Barbie doll syndrome) or is porn responsible for men feeling
inadequate about the magnitude of their operating manly appendage or is it
their sexual partner being dissatisfied? Could it be related to the
phallocentric ideal that a "bigger penis" is better or some type of trauma
related to locker room penis size incident as a child? Are women concerned with the performance and
satisfaction received from their male partner when the penis is too small and
what can men really do about it? Are
men considering penis enlargement for there self image rather than
functionality and desirability of their partner? Also what is the "normal"
penis size versus small or large?
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Throughout history,
the phallus symbol has played an important role in a variety of cultures and
worship of the symbol in many religions, such a Greek Mythology and the God
Mercury. Additionally, the symbols for female fertility, such as Stonehendge,
the Vagina Monoliths are equally important. In both cases these symbols represent fertility and procreation, which
in post-modern cultures were extremely relevant to survival of the human
race. Today, that isn’t the case, but
the objectivity of the phallus seems to still persist in modern society thanks
to Freud and his egocentric/phallocentrism. Since phallocentrism is ingrained in the culture it has manifested in a
variety of ways to create insecurities and self-image difficulties in men. The idea that a man’s penis size is directly
related to his ability to be empowered or his value has a human being or
"fertility" partner needs to be eliminated. All this does is create insecurities, fosters resentment, and separates
men from their money for a variety of products that may not necessarily fill
that void.
For example, the
attitude has continually persisted within modern culture, from childhood locker
room contests "my penis is larger" to media hype, and through pornography only
fuels the fire of insecurities. If you
spend time looking down at your flaccid appendage then watch a porn video and
see the larger than average penises performing a variety of sexual behavior and
start comparing yourself, of course it may cause a man to wonder. | 
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But if it is taken with a grain of salt and
if perchance men start looking at porn with the attitude "have I seen that porn star before", I believe they
will find that there is a very limited pool of well endowed men in the
industry. Also don’t forget that even
to be a male porn star a major requirement isn’t size of the penis, but the
ability to perform on cue and in front of a lot of people. Therefore, we have enough science and
explanations to discount progressive damaging myths, and egocentrisms in our
culture including what is a normal size of the penis?
Penis Size – What is the Norm?
According to the Kinsey Institute, the average
penis size is 4 –6 inches. In a study
done by Wessells, USCF, 1996, the average flaccid length is 8.8 CM (3.5 inches)
and erect 12.9 cm (5.1 inches). In
another study, done by the World Health Organization and published by Family
Health International, 1995, the average size of the penis differs across races,
African decent being slightly larger, Asian decent lightly smaller, while
European right down the middle. So why
do some men may think they are "smaller" than average in relationship to penis
size, they are actually right in the center of the "bell curve" and where does
that put you in relationship to the male population at large? According to James Smolev, MD, in an article
written by Michael Castlemen for Playboy.com, potentially "5% of men have
smaller than average penises and perhaps 10% are larger than average." In a study published in European Urology,
2001 by the Department of Urology, University of Florence, 67 male patients
andrological consultation for the issue of a "short penis" at a University
andrology clinic, the results showed that most men who seek penile lengthening
surgery overestimate "normal" penile length.
What’s good for women or gay male partners? Do they care about penis size?
Reported in a Dutch study of 375 sexually active women and
stated in a Mayo Clinic article, "79% of the women said that penis length is
unimportant and 69% said the same about girth." If that number is extrapolated
to the total population, it is a pretty significant number who are not
concerned. In relationship to gay men,
a recent study from the Utrecht University revealed that gay men and their
penis has considerable influence on how they value themselves in general. But also keep in mind gay men also value the
attractiveness of the overall body parts and consider their penis there most
attractive body part followed by their stomachs and their skin. Please note this was a survey of 251 gay men
at the average age of 29years old.
So the best course of action in my opinion is to talk with
your female partner or gay male partners regarding preferences. In some cases, women prefer an average to
smaller penis because "bigger is not necessarily better" and with large penile,
during vaginal intercourse, they can cause discomfort and pain. For gay men, they may also have issues
regarding what is comfortable in size for both oral copulation and anal
sex. Additionally, don’t buy into the
media’s image of women’s preferences because it distorts how real women feel. I
think what is more important to women, being one is how you perform in bed
through use of your fingers, mouth, the rhythm developed during intercourse and
of course the position. Finally, "the
organ of maximum sexual pleasure in females is not the vagina but the
clitoris." This is why your mouth and
fingers are just as important. You can
also stimulate the clitoris with just the head of your penis, or use a small
vibrating device while penetrating her at the same time. If you are not familiar with oral sex, I
suggest taking a workshop in your area or picking up a good book that explains
all you need to know, such as Oral Caress,
The Loving Guide to Exciting a Woman by sex therapist, Robert W Birch, Ph D. However, if you still feel that this process
is not your ultimate solution to satisfying your partner, there are other
options for increased girth and length and knowing how these options affect
your personal appendage.
Sexyscifi
The Kinsey Institute New Report on Sex, St.
Martins Press 1990, p. 18,
Gebhard, Paul, and Johnson, Alan (1979/1988).
The Kinsey Data: Marginal Tabulations of the 1938-1963 Invervies Conduted by
the Institue for Sex Research (reprint edition). Bloomington IN: Indian University Press
Wessells, H., Lue T.F., and McAninch, J.W.
(1996). Penile length in the flaccid and erect states: Guidelines
for penile augmentation. Journal of Urology, 153(3), 995-7.
Spruyt, Alan B (1995) The Latex Condom: Recent Advances, Future Directions, Chap3:
User Behaviors and Characteristics Related to Condom Failure, Family Health
International, World Health Organization
Woertman, (Feb 2006), Size Does Matter, Utrecht
University, Amsterdam, The Netherlands, Mail& Guardian online
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