Christian Swingers
Post date: 2011-02-16
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The Free Christian Swingers Community, the sexual habits of Christian swingers are typically characterised by partner-swapping, female bisexuality and group sex full penetrative sex, though common, is not essential male bisexuality is not absent among Christian's Lifestyle. All swinging couples have their own rules of sexual behaviour and these come in an infinite variety from the restrictive through the asymmetric to the relaxed.
More recent research ( Bergstrand & Williams (2000) has suggested lower levels of religious attachment that nevertheless are still higher than the norm. US swingers tend to be Republicans, middle to upper-middle class, middle-aged and (over 90%) white. They are less racist, less sexist and uphold traditional relationship roles less than the population at large, though they place the same importance on marriage and family life. The incidence of disturbed family backgrounds (a charge levied by critics of swinging) is lower than average.
CHRISTIAN SWINGERS FOR BEGINNERS
When you go to the party, don't be a wallflower. Wear something as sexy and daring as you can and still feel comfortable. Don't feel pressured, but maybe let yourself feel free to explore a side of you that you usually keep hidden.
Many newcomers are shy, and a good host will try to draw them out, but sometimes they miss someone. There is usually a "social hour" before the fun starts. Use the time to chat with your fellow party goers, get to know them as people. Our hosts had an "icebreaker" at the end of the social hour where all the guys lined up opposite the girls and everybody introduced themselves to the person opposite them and hugged (or kissed or whatever they felt comfortable with). Then the guys shifted one position to the left and repeated until every girl had met every guy. It was a nice way to make at least initial contact with everybody and you could get an idea of who might be interested by how they reacted.
Bergstrand & Williams (2000) justify their academic interest in swingers by recounting American rates of admitted affairs (37% of husbands, 29% of wives), divorce, family instability and neglected children. In the light of this "any attempt to redefine "love" and strengthen the marital bond is worthy of our attention. If swingers have found a way to stabilize relationships, prolong family ties, and enrich the lives of couples we would be remiss if we did not take their lifestyle and their redefinition of monogamous love seriously."
When you think of Christians and sex, what are the first few things that come to your mind?
"Christians think sex outside of marriage is wrong."
Or perhaps, "Christians make a point of telling me I am going to hell for my sexual proclivities."
Or even, "Christians think monogamy and marriage are the only game in town."
Christian Swinger Sexual Conflicts
Traditional Christianity vs. "The Faith Of Christ?"
- "Sex is dirty." - "Sex is wonderful."
- "Sex is for marriage only."
- "Sexual thoughts and fantasies are sinful."
- "Sex is an expression of love."
- "Sex has nothing to do with 'Christian' love."
The above statements represent some of the many conflicting views about sexuality with which most of us Christians were raised.
You will recognize that the negative statements are the kind that are used by religion and society to control the sexual lives and attitudes of people. In other words,those who have power over others use such ideas to conform others to some moral standard that is thought to be absolute. Traditional Christianity has used just such ideas for just such purposes.
Christ and the apostles taught that all power structures were to be challenged,not in the sense of political or social anarchy, but in the abolition of the control of one person over another or any institution over groups of people in the sense of restricting God-given liberties. In these teachings there was an appeal for transparency in human relationships. This transparency, which really implies both vulnerability and trust, was to reveal itself in the common bonds of family and social relationships.
A Fascinating to note, the early incarnations of the church
even indicate that the clergy enjoyed poly-amorous or
polygamous relationships. Priests and monks were allowed
to marry and have children, and often had more than
one wife. Funny how things change when money and the
property of the church come into question later on.
This bold statement is coupled and perhaps compounded by the fact that we are social nudist, and believe that acceptance of the body is one of the keys to sexual freedom for the self. This, perhaps, helps underscore his conviction that "God's intention for us as human beings and Christians is to have positive sexual self-esteem, to enjoy our sexual needs and desires and to share loving sexuality with a variety of people in responsible ways that conform to the New Testament's teaching."
How wrong you'd be; at least, as far as the Liberated Christian Swingers at (www.intimateassociates.com) are concerned. They're an interesting crew who are far from the field of those fire-and-brimstone spouting members of the Christian faith who would rather see you burn than be a whole, sexually comfortable (and satisfied) individual.
"Promoting Positive Intimacy and Sexuality Including Responsible Non-monogamy or Polyamory as a legitimate CHOICE for Christians and others, Exposing false traditions of sexual repression that have no biblical basis, Promoting Intimacy & Other-Centered, Loving Sexuality" are just some of the headers on their site. Immediately I thought: wow, how different a school of thought than the one into which I was raised.
Suffice to say people are entitled to believe what they want but it is important to be able to look at your own community, be it social (Swinging, Bingo whatever), religious (Catholic, Hindu whatever) or geographic (British, European, Asian whatever) and take a personal view on what it is doing ( and has done historically) right and wrong. The Catholic church does take a very clear stand on promiscuity, divorce etc (hence the creation of the CofE) and it is simply interesting to try and understand the process by which passionate believers in a faith are also able to sustain other (possibly) incompatible interests.
Christian Wives in Swingers Couples
It is indubitably an understatement to say that the role of women in our civilization has greatly changed over the past couple years. The humanistic rights and girl's activists have had an impression on sexual behavior also. The quantity of wives selecting engagement in swingers parties during the past couple decades is astonishing. Erotic and social boldness on the quantity of women at swingers and other swing activities is not only acceptable, it has come to be predictable. To candidly be as you are with absolutely no worry of apparent barely feminine is a amusing experience for a female and a welcome event for the male. Swingers Life Style provides the situation to adjust sex-function playing for everyone in the couple, granting guys and females to play a part with each other in a exceptionally human happening.
When you go to the party, don't be a wallflower. Wear something as sexy and daring as you can and still feel comfortable. Don't feel pressured, but maybe let yourself feel free to explore a side of you that you usually keep hidden.
Many newcomers are shy, and a good host will try to draw them out, but sometimes they miss someone. There is usually a "social hour" before the fun starts. Use the time to chat with your fellow party goers, get to know them as people. Our hosts had an "icebreaker" at the end of the social hour where all the guys lined up opposite the girls and everybody introduced themselves to the person opposite them and hugged (or kissed or whatever they felt comfortable with). Then the guys shifted one position to the left and repeated until every girl had met every guy. It was a nice way to make at least initial contact with everybody and you could get an idea of who might be interested by how they reacted.
If your party or club has a "group room," sometimes that can be a good place to start. A lot of times old friends will pair off early in a party, meeting people they've partied with before. A newcomer can feel a bit left out. But the group room isn't about pairing off, and is a great place to just watch if you're not ready to jump in yet. And who knows, you might just be inspired to join in! We started out watching, and when the group on the bed broke up to go get some food and drinks, Norman and I took over the now empty bed. Playing with your partner is familiar and comfortable; all you've added is the excitement that somebody might be watching. And sure enough, another couple came down and watched us for a while, then asked if they could join in.
Christians in 1988 became swingers
Promoting Positive Intimacy and Sexuality Including Responsible Nonmonogamy or Polyamory as a legitimate CHOICE for Christians and others / Exposing false traditions of sexual repression that have no biblical basis. Promoting Intimacy & Other-Centered, Loving Sexuality
Jack comes from a very conservative church background. 30 years ago he was very active in evangelical, conservative ministries, including Bible Study Fellowship, Christian Business Men's Committee, Billy Graham Crusades, as well as serving as deacon in a conservative Presbyterian Church in Minneapolis. For many years he believed in the inerrant word of God--that "God says it and that settles it."
But then he met a couple where both husband and wife were going to Lutheran Theological Seminary to be Lutheran ministers. They started pointing out how in Hebrew and Greek there were obvious contradictions in scripture and some things he thought were crystal clear were quite foggy. Being interested in supporting his conservative beliefs concerning sexuality, Jack set out to do more research to prove his position correct that sex was wrong unless you were married and then only with your wife.
He read many books by theologians and experts in Greek and Hebrew and slowly, over time, found the evidence was overwhelming that he had been very wrong in his traditional beliefs. Jack became very upset that the church would mistranslate and misapply biblical truths to promote an agenda which was not based on the original biblical texts.
In the Spring of 1995 the Phoenix paper New Times featured us on its front page. While their article was humorous and somewhat sensational, it did tell our story and some couples contacted us. The headline of the article was "Onward Christian Swingers - Looking for God in all the wrong places? - Try this Sunday meeting!". My favorite line from the article was: "The group's introductory literature may be the only publication on Earth where you'll find the phrases 'Old Testament' and 'vibrating nipple clamps' on the same page."
My interest in private consenting adult sex work was the result of how to help the zillions of single men that we could not accommodate in the Liberated Christians Couples group since couples prefer to relate to other couples and there were very few single women interested unless already in a relationship - so a couple.
For many years, I've done intimacy and sexuality counseling related to Liberated Christians. From the huge response we get at Liberated Christians, it is clear that our culture is full of tease and titillation but many men in particular, don't have a clue when it comes to physical intimacy skills and what is sexually fulfilling to most women. Sorry guys. There are wonderfully intimate men who are exceptions of course.
I also hear from a vast number of single men and women who are very sexually frustrated. I can relate to their situation since although I teach and lead mostly couples, I don't have my own relationship. Sex work could provide companionship, intimacy and sexual fulfillment for both men and women if done with the right attitude by sex workers with good attitudes and warm personalities viewing clients as real people, not just ATM machines for money. Likewise sex workers should be viewed with dignity and respect, and not as bodies parts to be grope and Christians strip poked.
Christianity as tradition he describes as a movement which has virtually abandonedits commitment to the above principles and has degenerated into a moralistic religion,devoid of true love for God and neighbor and obsessed with enforcing a moral codedemanding "chastity, absolute obedience... (and) sacrifice". (The Subversionof Christianity, pp. 11, 17)
It is this perverted version of Christianity which imprisons people in guilt andshame about their bodies and their God-given sexual desires. (This is not to saythat there is no such thing as sexual sin or that we are given license to do anythingwe please at anytime and with anyone in terms of fulfilling sexual desires. Itis to say that Christian love, properly understood, will both live freely in termsof sexual loving and at the same time respect all persons in their relationships,so that fulfillment is accomplished without harming others.) This is not the Christianityof the Bible, that is, the Christianity that Ellul calls "the faith of Christ".
The purpose of Jesus in his life and death was to enable us to fulfill the demandsof the law of God, not by sacrifice and legalistic obedience, but by loving Godand loving our neighbor.
I believe that it is in the intimacy of sexual relationships where this kind oflove can be expressed in a very full way. One of the greatest deformities of trueChristian faith is the collection of teachings that seeks in every way possibleto remove godly love from the sexual experience.
Contrary to this is the simple, yet beautiful, statement of a Christians brotherwho is involved with his family in a sexually loving community in another state:"We believe that sharing sexual pleasure with one another is an extension ofthe love of almighty God."
Obviously, such sharing presents the problem or vulnerability -- the challenge of opening ourselves to others. Many people are afraid of such openness. I believe that it is only within a loving, caring community, manifesting the kind of love that Jesus taught, that sufficient trust can be created to make truly "open"relationships possible.
It might be observed at this point that the availability of many near-fool proof methods of birth control today opens the way to much greater sexual freedom in general and should make possible some of the restructuring of marriage and family models mentioned earlier. It is worth noting that such restructuring on this basis would not have been possible in the ancient world and indeed would not have been feasible until very recent times. It seems to me that practical/scientific developments such as safe, reliable contraception should make the church rethink the possibilities of sexual behavior and patterns. I believe that alert and aware Christians have the opportunity to explore new and exciting options in these areas.)
It happened that Christianity was born in a culture in which these views of sexuality were common. Thus, all of Christianity's sexual teachings have been compromised by such views, almost to the point of continuing to treat sexual phenomena as magical,thus calling for the many controlling taboos.
Today we know that sex is not magic. It may be awe-inspiring, exciting, confusing and even properly regarded as containing elements of mystery. It may be the most emotionally meaningful aspect of human life. But it is not magic and should notbe treated with the fear and taboos of the past. I believe that traditional Christianity perpetuates these outdated views and we must work to rid ourselves of them in the fellowship of Christian love.
There is alot of debate about swingers and even more about
christians. What are your opinions on Christian Swingers. I know the
bible says that you should be with your hubby and only with your
hubby but if the love and trust is there and both are willing then why
not have a little fun.
Swinging is one of the most popular sexual pursuits in todays society and has probably been going since the beginning of time.
Modern day swinging has it"s roots in Germany and American soldiers that were serving there at the time are believed to have introduced the practice to North America.
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