Fellatio ( Blow, Corvus, Irrumation, Penosugia; Oral Sex -- fellatio or cunnilingus ) Fellatio ( fellare: to suck ) refers to the ancient practice of mouth to penis sexual contact. This form of stimulus is quite common in the animal kingdom. The book Sex Link tells of the dragon fly that demands a form of fellatio before coitus. He joins his partner during flight and bangs her head against his primary sex organ until he decides to finally turn around and mate.
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The ancient Phoenician and Egyptian prostitutes were the first to wear
lipstick which was used to advertise their specialized talents of
fellatio and cunnilingus. Cleopatra, while not a prostitue, was known
for her love of fellatio. Her enemies spread rumors of the queen
performing oral sex on huge numbers from among her army in one night.
The religious historian, Mircea Eliade, speaks of a desire to transcend old age and death, and achieve a state of nirvana, in the Hindu practice of Tantric yoga. In Tantric sex or yoga, the same emphasis is placed on the retention and absorption of vital liquids and Sanskrit texts describe how semen must not be emitted if the yogi is to avoid falling under law of time and death.
 Note: Yoga was developed to increase a women's sexual performance!
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TIPS
Too often oral sex is initiated by sucking on the penis. To achieve a more powerful orgasm, it is better practice to start with some teasing. With the exception of a quickie, fellatio should be started with some well placed teasing. Start by kissing and licking around his penis, on the inner thighs, then on to his testicles, and then slowly up his shaft towards his glans (the head of his penis). Once you get there, use your tongue to tickle him around the glans, and especially on his frenulum, the split on the underside of his penis. At this point, he should be hard as a rock and super-sensitive to everything that you do. You can continue teasing if you like, but we don’t recommend teasing too long, as this can become frustrating for the receiver.
One common problem women performing fellatio make is using only their mouth to repeatedly stroke his penis. They continue doing this until either it works, or they get a sore jaw and neck. A good “blow job” should not be too repetitive, should include stroking using a hand and the exploration of his testicles, thighs and (if you and he like) the anal region. By mixing up your style, you allow your muscles to relax, you can avoid getting a sore neck and you can improve your performance. Another practice is to learn or teach your self to deep throat. A technique used in
BDSM (
Dominance and Submission ) requires the submissive while brushing his or her teeth at night will spend several minutes pushing the tooth brush to the back of their throat and breathing through their nose, not the mouth. Holding this position and resisting the gag reflex teaches you to fight the gag reflex and within a few days one can actually touch the back of the throat without gaging, this is the same technique used by old fashion sword swallowers.
How you mix it up should depend on what your partner’s likes. Although there is a lot to say about fellatio that can get the job done in a matter of minutes, it is the longer ones that usually result in more intense orgasms, and coincidently are remembered. (Click here to read about stroking techniques).
As your head travels up the underside of the penis, flatten your tongue so it gives his frenulum a nice wide, wet stroke. Don’t be afraid to try different types of licks or kisses—the lips feel good when popped over the ridge of the penis—but perform each stroke repeatedly before changing to give consistent pleasure.
You can also apply pressure to his perineum (the spot between his anus and his penis) with one or two fingers, as this also can feel good.
It is a good idea to keep an eye on his scrotum (his testicle “sack”), as it is usually a good indicator of how close he is to coming. As a guy gets closer to climax, the skin on his scrotum tightens and pulls his testicles towards his body to warm them up. You can let this happen on its own, or help out by stimulating his testicles with a hand, tongue, or mouth. You can also delay his orgasm by creating and circle with your thumb and index finger around his scrotum, so his balls lay in the palm of your hand and pull down towards his balls slowly and carefully pulling his balls away from his body!
