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Virtually everyone has heard stories about a magic spot inside a woman that, if properly stimulated, will send her to paroxysms of sexual ecstasy. Known as the G-Spot, this area has been the subject of several books and countless magazine articles. But does it really exist? If so, how do you find it?
The G-Spot is an area on the front wall of your vagina that when stimulated, can cause women to orgasm and sometimes ejaculate. For some women, stimulating the G-Spot creates a more intense orgasm than clitorial stimulation. Not all women can have an orgasm through G-Spot stimulation.
The simple answer is yes, the G-Spot does exist, but there's nothing mysterious about it. It's simply an area of increased sensitivity that many women like to have stimulated. Named after Ernst Grafenberg, a German medical doctor who wrote about "an erotic zone located on the anterior wall of the vagina along the course of the urethra that would swell during sexual stimulation," the G-Spot was popularized during the Women's Movement in The G Spot, a best-selling book by Alice K. Ladas, Beverly Whipple and John D. Perry.
If you have one (and I mean if, that's a big if), it's 2.5cm to 5cm (1in to 2in) inside the vagina on the front wall. You should be able to feel it with your finger. If you're not sexually aroused it may be no bigger than a pea; once you're aroused it increases to the size of a 2p piece.
It's actually more a of a zone than a spot. If you want to explore and find out whether you have one, feel for an area that's rough, a bit like a walnut, rather than smooth and silky like the rest of the vaginal wall.
The G-Spot is embryonically analogous to the male prostate. In plain English, certain embryonic cells develop one way if the child is female and another way if the baby turns out to be male. In boys, the prostate gland is responsible for the production of fluid that makes up the majority of semen. In girls, the area that would have been the prostate becomes the G-Spot. The reason some medical authorities have said that it doesn't exist is because the G-Spot engorges only with stimulation, making it very hard to locate in autopsy studies, the primary source for new anatomical research.
The G Spot cannot possibly live up to all the hype it has received; it is simply one more pleasant place to stimulate in some women. While all women have a G-Spot, not all women notice anything different when it is stimulated--and some women actually dislike the sensation. So don't be discouraged if you can't find your own G-Spot, or that of a partner. And don't be alarmed if you don't like the sensation. Remember, every body is different!
What is Your G Spot
For many women, it's a highly sensitive, highly erotic area that provides hours of pleasure. For others it's a knobbly bit that, when touched too much, creates an overwhelming sensation of needing a wee. Some women can't feel any sensation at all while others don't seem to have one at all.
There are a number of different theories about what the G-spot or area actually is. One view is that it is an area of prostatic tissue similar to the male prostate. The absence of the Y chromosome in the developing female fetus deposits the cells in a similar location and voila - the G-spot. Complete with a similar type of sensitivity to the male prostate
Another expert agrees with the prostate theory but expands it to say that this is not the only reason for sensitivity. He points to the clitoris and the urethra as other sources of pleasure, both of which can be stimulated via the front wall of the vagina. Therefore there are a number of erogenous zones and we should stop seeking the elusive g-spot and instead rename it the ‘anterior wall erogenous complex’ - catchy!
A further expert who was first responsible for publicising the G-spot has recently discovered another use. In research she has shown that stimulation of the G-spot area can increase pain threshold by up to 47%. If the stimulation is arousing, the pain threshold increases by up to 84% and a massive 107% on orgasm. Her hypothesis is that this sensitive and erogenous area is one of natures natural painkillers for childbirth.
So there you go. Basically, we still don’t know for sure - but the important thing is to find out what you’ve got and what you like.
Finding Your G-Spot
The G-Spot is located along the upper/front wall of the vagina, about two inches in, towards the stomach. Try some manual exploration. Lie on your back on the floor with your knees bent and rest your feet on the bed in front of you. Insert your middle finger into your vagina and gently stroke the front wall behind the pubic bone, about two inches up. You should feel a patch of skin that has a different texture from the rest of your vaginal walls, slightly rough or "ruffled." Using a "comehither" motion, press into the center of this ruffled patch until you feel an area that is sensitive to pressure. That's your G-Spot, also known as your urethral sponge. It's on the other side of your vaginal wall, which is why you'll probably respond more to pressure than light stroking. The area is about the size of a pea, but can enlarge to the size of a walnut when stimulated. You should also know that many women feel like they need to urinate when this area is stimulated. This is due to the fact that, as it enlarges, it presses on the same nerves that signal a full bladder. Most women find, however, that as stimulation is continued, this feeling goes away and is replaced with pleasurable sensations.
What to do with your G Spot
Once you've established whether you've got one or not, you need to discover whether you have one that gives you pleasure or just feels a bit annoying. Stroking is usually the most enjoyable form of stimulation.
Sexual virtuosos recommend inserting the forefinger to about the second knuckle and making a 'come here' motion towards the front vaginal wall. You'll need to experiment with pressure and length of stroke to find out what feels best for you. It's important that you're sexually aroused first, and also worth noting that many women say sensitivity varies throughout the month.
During stimulation, the first sensation might be the need to go to the loo, possibly because the G-spot is on the front wall so your bladder is being pushed. You can check this out by making sure your bladder's empty first then seeing how it feels. The first couple of times it might be a bit odd, but many women say a little perseverance is more than worth it.
Doing the G-Spot
The G Spot is not a magical button, but rather, an area that some women enjoy having stimulated. The following steps are written for self-exploration, but can be modified for use with a partner.
* Relax. This should be fun, not a goal-oriented mission.
* Use a lubricant you like.
* Masturbate in your usual way until you feel aroused.
* Insert one or two fingers into the vagina, crooking them up toward the belly (12 o'clock position if you are lying on your back).
* Press firmly against the roof of the vagina about one-third of the way in.
* You should feel a small ruffled lump that increases in size with continued stimulation.
* Start slow: insert your fingers gently and use soft, gentle motions at first. When you feel the G-Spot area becoming enlarged, use more pressure.
* Remember to keep paying attention to other parts of your body: your breasts, your clitoris ... whatever feels good.
* As your body begins to respond positively and you start feeling pleasure, use more pressure and more rapid motions.
* As you continue to stimulate the G-Spot, you may feel your vagina clench and bear down, the signal that orgasm is imminent. Apply more pressure to the urethral sponge, stroking and manipulating the area around the urethral opening.
* You may feel the urge to urinate. Don't fight it! You may be getting ready to ejaculate. Relax, trust your body and your partner, and see what happens.
Many women find G-Spot stimulation easier and more pleasurable in positions other than on their backs. Try rolling over on your stomach or getting on all fours. Women don't usually enjoy penetration until they are somewhat aroused. Engage in whatever foreplay you find arousing: touching, kissing, stroking, oral sex, talking ... whatever works for you. G-Spot stimulation should come at the middle or the end of your sexual play, not at the beginning. Use lubrication when you're ready for digital penetration, even if your body is already producing natural lubrication, which can often run dry at an inopportune moment. You might also consider purchasing one of the many sex toys designed specifically for G-Spot stimulation.
Feeling Gspot during intercourse
Depending on the size and exact location of your G-spot, you may or may not be able to feel stimulation during intercourse. You're most likely to feel something if you have your pelvis raised.
Another popular position is to be on all fours or bending over from a standing position and allowing penetration from behind. You'll need to experiment.
That's all there is to it. No magic. Some women can have an orgasm from G-Spot stimulation alone. Some say it increases the strength of their orgasms or allows them to be multi-orgasmic. A few even say that stimulation leads to ejaculation. Others dislike stimulation of the area altogether. Experiment and see what feels good to you or your partner. Most of all, have fun. And don't forget -- if you enjoy G-Spot stimulation, be sure to teach your partner how to find it and what to do with it!
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