Masturbation (Ipism, Onanism; amatripsis-rubbing labia together, Manauxorate-male using hand, Maritate-bate-rubbing thighs together, Triborgasimia-wife who masturbates husband)
Masturbation generally refers to bringing oneself to orgasm using manual stimulation. If this is accomplished with the assistance ofa partner it is then referred to as mutual masturbation, petting, or foreplay. Masturbation is considered a “normal” process in sexual development and maturity, often beginning at a young age. Boys generally first ejaculate between the ages of 10 and 13 years.
HISTORY OF MASTURBATION
The early 18th century marked the beginning of a two hundred year period where masturbation came to be viewed in Western societies as a form of unhealthy self-abuse by the morally degenerate or mentally ill. The Puritans condemned the practice because sex was for procreation. However, the Victorians were concerned more because of its perceived health risks. These fears arose from books that were written warning that almost every sort of ailment could be caused by men wasting their vital life energy. Physicians erroneously assumed that losing semen crated the same effects as seen in castrated men. John Todd wrote several books, wherein he quoted the superintendents of an insane asylum as saying that masturbation is not only “the cause of bringing many of their patients there, but an almost insuperable obstacle in the way of their recovery” (The Horrors of the Half-Known Like, Male attitudes Toward Women and Sexuality in Nineteenth-Century America, by G.J Baker-Benfield, p. 166)
This was the start of a public phobia that led many parents to use painful penis harnesses to prevent erections in their sons. The case of a young girl was reported in 1894-5 edition of International Medical Magazine where a doctor in Ohio decided to eliminate her desire to masturbate by cauterizing the clitoris. When this failed to produce the desired results he fabulated the area with silver wire. These she tore loose and in a final effort he cut out the clitoris. Adults were castrated as well to stop masturbation. As late as 1897 a man was documented to have had his penis amputated as a cure for masturbation.
Masturbation is not usually thought of as a tool for torture but is used extensively in BDSM, Dominance and Submission, exhibitionism, voyeurism, but even this pleasurable experience has dreadful consequences when overdone. Messalina a great Dominatrix and the wife of the Roman emperor Claudius, is said to have ordered men to be masturbated until they either became permanently impotent or died but we believe this not to be true with current clinical knowledge of masturbation. At one time several nomadic Northern African tribes used a similar form of torture on their captives to induce astral orgasms ( Orgasms Astral ). Even today repeated masturbation is used on male rape victims or in consensual bondage scenes as part of achieving orgasms S and M, but not to the same degree.
Masturbation is educational, prepares people for sex with partners, and allows them a safe environment in which to experiment with methods and sensations that are stimulating. The role of masturbation in one’s life can have been more dramatic psychological benefits. A new form of sex therapy has enable people to replace harmful substance addictions by forcing themselves to masturbate daily. This act transfers the pleasure stimulus to an activity that is healthy and one that can lad to an intimate relationship with others (ESO, Orgasms Altered State, by Alan Brauer M.D and Donna Brauer, p. 48)
Masturbation is tolerated by most cultures except when it totally replaces a person’s desire for the opposite sex. It is easy for people to become conditioned or reliant on one method of stimulation. If that method can be easily modified to allow orgasm through genital penetration there is no problem. However, if the stimulus needed is one that cannot be adapted in this manner both people will suffer. Below is a table that categorizes a few masturbation techniques according to a criteria for penile-vagina sex.
Partner Compatible Masturbation |
Partner Incompatible Masturbation |
Thrusting against a pillow |
Large Vibrators (big headed massagers) |
Rubbing with fingers, towel, heel of foot |
Boudoir water spray (cologne, perfume) |
Use of lubricants, condom, fruit, etc |
Rubbing against photos |
Small vibrators such as Lelo, Oh-Ring |
Rushing through the act |
Jackhammer Johnson (Fantasy Glide) |
Watching own genitals in a hand mirror |
Anal Stimulation |
Uretral stimulation |
Ben-wa balls |
Douches |
Nipple Stimulation |
Rough handling of genitals (own) |
Masturbation Today
It has been stated by some authorities in sexual health that regular masturbation helps one’s ability to orgasm by keeping the pubococcygeus (PC) muscle in tone. The PC muscle is the muscle that covers the genital region from the mons pubis to the anus. Arnold Kegel developed an exercise that improves people’s muscle tone thereby intensifying or adding control to orgasms. These exercises, named Kegels, allow for control of the muscle and are done simply by stopping and restarting the flow of their urine. Also continually exercising this muscle through out the day by squeezing it and holding also strengthens it. The improved strength of the muscle can be tested if one is a man by hanging a towel over an erect penis and trying to raise it higher. A woman can place finger in the vagina and squeeze or push with her PC muscle. For women, Ben wa balls are used as well since she is actually holding them with her PC muscle inside her vagina.
Carol Queen, founder Center of Sex and Culture, San Francisco, CA, named May as Masturbation month in 1999 and holds a Masturbate-a-thon every May to raise funds for the non-profit organization, Center of Sex and Culture. This event has also caught on to raise funds for charities dealing with sexual awareness and health. Other locations for a the Masturbate-a-thon include Portland, OR, London, UK, Boston, MA well as other small groups that just have a party to raise funds. For more information about the Masturbate-a-thon, visit . masturabate-a-thon. This event is about self masturbation and is a celebration of techniques, self-awareness and ultimately raising funds for charity.
When is masturbating to much for the body? As with everything over indulgence, especially for men can lead to difficulty with vaginal or anal sex if the penis is to accustomed to hand stimulus. Excessive masturbation can only be determined individually, based on the number of skin abrasions, bruise, or the time spent on this activity and whether it keeps one from engaging in other necessary activities. In part, our desire to masturbate involves needs that may extend beyond sex and morality. Masturbation can be seen as a thermostat for a our emotional wellbeing, and can be used according to a person’s needs.
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